Hey Ladies, it’s another day another chance! “Askin all them questions…” How many of you have gone through your loved one’s phone? How many of you were satisfied with what you found? How many of you are not in that relationship because of what you […]
Hey Ladies! It’s another day, another chance…
The ability to actively listening is associated with wisdom. Wise people are always open to learn more or receive guidance. Listening is also holding onto what is taught and making it a part of who you are.
“Anyone who listens to the Word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.“
What Proverbs Is…
I thought proverbs was just a daunting list of rules that I must follow to skate through life. But Proverbs is a way out for those who want to change their lives from living carelessly and foolishly. Proverbs is a way to having better relationships. The Book of Proverbs shows us how to be discerning, caring, compassionate, and smart. It helps those who are already wise teach others, and also reminds the wise of what they have been practicing.
Proverbs is a direct and frank way to get closer to God. These verses were not meant to be interpreted as someone bossing us around. It is a guide. It is like the parents or mentor you never had giving you all the advice you need to get through obstacles, and avoid possible calamities.
The Book of Proverbs is quick to remind us that what our flesh wants usually becomes our peril. When it’s only our will, it goes to ruins. That is why we should not be jealous of those who gain by evil ways, or by cheating their way there. Ladies, our lives will not be perfect. We as Christians will always suffer. 2 Timothy 3:12 reminds us that “Yes, and everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution.” But if we turn to Proverbs and allow its wisdom to become a part of us, not just words on a page or a great Instagram quote; Proverbs will truly be a gift to those who heed its words.
And this is why I change…
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of all knowledge…
Hey Ladies, it’s another day, another chance!
We have things that validate us: our degree, amazing job, salary, and our spouses. There are many things that we allow to define us. Becoming a wife was one thing that I was letting define me. Although I am not married yet, I used to believe that if you were married then that meant you made it. It meant someone loved you so much that they wanted you forever. You would not have to worry about breaking “holy rules” or being alone.
This past year, I have learned that allowing marriage to be validation for my worth is not what God intended marriage to be. Marriage is not easy at all. It is work, compromise, forgiving, communication, team work and a lot more. It is dying to yourself. This pertains especially to the woman when it comes to trusting the man to be your head and following him as you follow Christ. Marriage is not a super show where you are happy, taking selfies all the time, and “Hashtaging Bae” throughout your social media feed. It is a beautiful and sacred union and must be taken with a seriousness. Your life should be changed and enhanced by it.
Know Whose You Are!
If you let anything that is not God give you your self worth it will destroy you. We as women strive and perfect ourselves so that men MIGHT spot us and whisk us away into the sunset. Most women (I am the first in that line!) are so insecure that that is all they can think about in order to feel important, to feel like they matter.
To validate means to demonstrate or support the truth or value of something.
But your self worth and value does not come from marriage, it comes from God. When you start to believe what the Word says about you and walk in it, you will not look for validation in material things and relationships. Also, when you do not get those things you most want, it will not destroy you like it might have if you were looking for it to validate you.
Give It All You Got!
I have come to the realization that whether I am a wife or not, God loves me and made me fearfully and wonderfully. Now I have decided to put all my eggs in one basket, and that basket is God’s. Because Matthew 6:33 says to “seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” When you put God first, everything He wants will become what you want. He made us to be more than our titles. He created us to give glory to Him. In His image we were made, therefore we are more precious than rubies( Proverbs 31:10). We should let our worth be in Christ always, and alone. When all else fades, God will still be there. He is consistent, loving and patient. Now Ladies, doesn’t that sound like a wonderful place to set your desires in?
In other words, being a wife, mother, successful business owner, and other titles wonderful or otherwise does not give us our value…God does.
And this is why I change..
Hello Ladies! it’s another day, another chance…
Let’s talk about butterflies.
Have you ever thought about butterflies as being gross?…No? You’re probably thinking what does this have to do with me anyway? Well let’s see how…
The Gross Part
In my opinion the grossest part of a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly is when it must break out of that old crusty cocoon. It has to fight and struggle its way out of something it has been wrapped in for a while. When you are becoming a new creature, it won’t look beautiful right before the transformation. We know the things we have gone through to get where we are today: staying up late studying, saying no to our friends when they are going out to get sleep for that interview, letting go of that man who is dragging us down, and not snapping on that girl at work who always looking at you sideways.
It’s hard going through transformation especially when being the caterpillar was just getting comfortable. But please know that the cocoon is very necessary. If there was no cocoon there would be no wings which means no flight. The cocoon prepares you for your future. Ladies, what I want us to understand is just because something does not look or feel good when you go through it does not indicate that it is the end of the world. When that bright colored caterpillar decided to disappear into a cocoon it wasn’t the end… it was just the beginning!
“Don’t go changin!”
You know sometimes we as women think we are doing well being caterpillars. Everyone is used to us being a certain way, ALL THE TIME. They expect us to always have the personality THEY have gotten used to being around. But oh once we start going through that transformation, people will begin to stir… They will say “Why don’t you hang out with us anymore?” or “Are you okay?…We are worried about you?”
In the cocoon the butterfly literally dissolves itself to form new limbs new body, heck it is even adding something it never had before…wings! Of course when you start to change the others will say you don’t look like us anymore… you don’t act like us anymore…They (the caterpillars) will begin to look down upon you or even criticize you for changing. I’m here to encourage you Ladies.
Don’t let others come down on your come up.
And this is why I change…
2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV
“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old are passed away; behold , all things are become new.”