Author: Kaomi Jones

You (Guilt) Trippin!

You (Guilt) Trippin!

Hey Ladies, I was talking with a friend of mine and she was telling me her struggles with sin. I remember my days in high school and college where I would pray to God to forgive me for being “bad”. Walking around looking for God…

Be Encouraged

Be Encouraged

Hey Ladies, Who helps you up when you are down? Is it your friends, your mom, or your significant other? Who is that person that reminds you that you are somebody and you were made with a purpose? What if that friend has to take…

What’s Your Passcode?

What’s Your Passcode?

Hey Ladies, it’s another day another chance!

“Askin all them questions…”

How many of you have gone through your loved one’s phone? How many of you were satisfied with what you found? How many of you are not in that relationship because of what you found. Plot Twist… how many of you are not in that relationship because there was nothing there and he couldn’t trust you anymore… Was it worth it?

Now I am going to ask a question many women do not think about when it comes to going through your significant other’s phone… How many of you were forgiven by your man for going through his phone? Forgiven. Never brought it up to you, still loved on you, hugged you, served you, took care of you after you breached his trust and violated his personal space?
I know, I know I can hear most Ladies now saying “I had a feeling he was doing somthing.”, “I just had to see who he was talking to so much.” “I have trust issues.” “I wanted to make sure he was telling the truth.”

These all seem to be good reasons right? But as a woman who is aspiring to trust in God daily with everything, we should not leave out our man’s personal life in that agreement.

The Struggle Is Real

I have struggled with this Ladies. Hard. I have gone through my loved one’s phone more times than I would like to admit. Every time, he has forgiven me. He could have left me, gotten two phones, or just gone out and did what I thought he might be doing. But I am blessed to have a patient man. I realized that I was not trusting God to take care of me. I took my insecurities from past relationships with men that I should not have been in a relationship with and projected it on this new guy God brought into my life. I told my self I had a right to protect myself, I had a right to know. When in reality I was taking the foundation of any relationship (trust) and flushing it down the toilet.

Light at the end of the tunnel…

After much counseling and reading my Word I learned that if there is any temptation we are going through, He will give us a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). So when we have that burning addicting feeling to type that passcode in, go do somthing else, go talk to your mentor about it, work out, read. You see Ladies, in the end you are not catching him do anything, you are planting the seed of deception, untrustworthiness, and blocking your peace of mind.

Now I ask you again is it worth it?

Dont fall victim to the passcode, it’s just a passcode, not the key to all knowledge. For if your man has God as his head, he won’t lead you astray.

And this is why I change…

James 4:7

“Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

Speak!

Speak!

Hey Ladies, it’s another day, another chance…to re-write this blog.      Mhmm, what I originally wrote was lost or the app deleted it, I’m not sure. But I am going to keep my head up and write again. I wrote about how fear keeps…

Wisdom ain’t just for old people…

Wisdom ain’t just for old people…

Hey Ladies! It’s another day, another chance… Listening The ability to actively listening is associated with wisdom. Wise people are always open to learn more or receive guidance. Listening is also holding onto what is taught and making it a part of who you are.…

Will You Marry Me?

Will You Marry Me?

Hey Ladies, it’s another day another chance!

Let’s take a look at John the Baptist for a moment…

John 3:29-30
“The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the bridegroom waits and listens for him and is full of joy when he hears the bridegrooms voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete. He must become greater, I must become less.”

 

Know Your Role

John knows his job, he also takes pride in and loves that job. John is happy to see when Jesus arrives to step into his role. John knows what he has to do in order for Jesus to step into that role…he must decrease.

Just like a woman about to get married her father has carried her through everything and yet as they walk down that aisle to the groom, the father hands her over to him. Although her father raised her and taught her, he now must become less.

We go through our lives doing what we have been taught and we come up with our own lifestyle eventually. But when Jesus comes to us it is our choice to step aside and lay down everything so that he can take his place where he is supposed to be in our lives. We must decrease, but first we must have joy like John said in verse 39 “that joy is mine and it is now complete”. We cannot truly be whole or complete without Jesus being on the throne of our entire being. We cannot become one unless we marry to Jesus’s standards.

 

Wait! What Does ‘Marry’ Mean?

The word marry has several definitions and we are familiar with one dealing with matrimony, however, another definition is to cause to meet or fit together, OR to meet or blend something.
So we need to marry to Jesus teachings, marry his character, marry everything Jesus exemplifies.  The only way to completely blend ourselves with Jesus is for us to decrease. Daily, hourly, every moment, with joy understanding our job. Ladies…that job is to do his will.

And this is why I change…

John 3:29-30

Just Do It!

Just Do It!

Hey Ladies! It’s another day, another chance! Can you imagine people hating you so much that they want to kill you? … and you let them? Jesus was scared out of his mind about going to die on the cross… yet he stood up and…

Stamp of Approval

Stamp of Approval

Hey Ladies, it’s another day, another chance!   Validation We have things that validate us: our degree, amazing job, salary, and our spouses. There are many things that we allow to define us. Becoming a wife was one thing that I was letting define me.…

Hannah Got Low… Will you?

Hannah Got Low… Will you?

Hello Ladies, it’s another day, another chance…

The first time I read about Hannah, I was heavily struck by how humble she was. The way she worshiped God was raw and uncut. I wanted to be able to lay my pain on God’s shoulders like Hannah did. She did it with such grace. Reading about Hannah began my search throughout the bible for other women with that same humility and worship.

There is one thing that stuck out to me about her story. It was something important that I realized I was not doing. Usually when I prayed to God I would cry or ask fervently, then go away with it still heavy on my heart. I did not leave it in His hands and Ladies that is not what I should have done. But when you read Hannah’s story she did something different…

Eli answered, “Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.” She said, “May your servant find favor in your eyes.” Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast” 1 Samuel 1:17-18

Hannah went away and her face was no longer downcast about her problem. She prayed fervently and openly to God. Once Eli confirmed that God would answer her prayer, she cast all of her worries away. She immediately trusted God.

 

 

“Don’t Worry Be Happy

There are verses that remind us to not worry about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:4-7) Hannah left with that peace so much so she went forward and sowed that seed of faith with her husband. (1 Sam 1: 17-20) Usually we run away from the very thing we are asking God to change, when indeed we should walk in faith that God has heard us and will ‘remember’ us.

Hannah could have said, “I’ll just wait a few days for the Lord to tell me when my husband and I should come together.” or “I want to make sure He has heard me so I will wait.” That dear people is a lack of trust when you hesitate. Hannah, a true servant of God, acted with faith instead of merely having it. Oh how I pray to be like her with her servant spirit…humble spirit…open spirit. Not only will I pray to have a humble spirit but I will practice having one. Remember Ladies, God wants us to worship him with our whole heart.

And this is why I change…

1 Samuel 1 – 2:2 NIV

“You Can Have Whatever You Like!”

“You Can Have Whatever You Like!”

Hey Ladies, it’s another day, another chance… You know what I have realized recently? I’ve realized that if I got everything I ever wanted in life, it would suck. No seriously, if I got the house I wanted, the job I have been dreaming of,…