Stamp of Approval
Hey Ladies, it’s another day, another chance!
We have things that validate us: our degree, amazing job, salary, and our spouses. There are many things that we allow to define us. Becoming a wife was one thing that I was letting define me. Although I am not married yet, I used to believe that if you were married then that meant you made it. It meant someone loved you so much that they wanted you forever. You would not have to worry about breaking “holy rules” or being alone.
This past year, I have learned that allowing marriage to be validation for my worth is not what God intended marriage to be. Marriage is not easy at all. It is work, compromise, forgiving, communication, team work and a lot more. It is dying to yourself. This pertains especially to the woman when it comes to trusting the man to be your head and following him as you follow Christ. Marriage is not a super show where you are happy, taking selfies all the time, and “Hashtaging Bae” throughout your social media feed. It is a beautiful and sacred union and must be taken with a seriousness. Your life should be changed and enhanced by it.
Know Whose You Are!
If you let anything that is not God give you your self worth it will destroy you. We as women strive and perfect ourselves so that men MIGHT spot us and whisk us away into the sunset. Most women (I am the first in that line!) are so insecure that that is all they can think about in order to feel important, to feel like they matter.
To validate means to demonstrate or support the truth or value of something.
But your self worth and value does not come from marriage, it comes from God. When you start to believe what the Word says about you and walk in it, you will not look for validation in material things and relationships. Also, when you do not get those things you most want, it will not destroy you like it might have if you were looking for it to validate you.
Give It All You Got!
I have come to the realization that whether I am a wife or not, God loves me and made me fearfully and wonderfully. Now I have decided to put all my eggs in one basket, and that basket is God’s. Because Matthew 6:33 says to “seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” When you put God first, everything He wants will become what you want. He made us to be more than our titles. He created us to give glory to Him. In His image we were made, therefore we are more precious than rubies( Proverbs 31:10). We should let our worth be in Christ always, and alone. When all else fades, God will still be there. He is consistent, loving and patient. Now Ladies, doesn’t that sound like a wonderful place to set your desires in?
In other words, being a wife, mother, successful business owner, and other titles wonderful or otherwise does not give us our value…God does.
And this is why I change..