What’s Your Passcode?
Hey Ladies, it’s another day another chance!
“Askin all them questions…”
How many of you have gone through your loved one’s phone? How many of you were satisfied with what you found? How many of you are not in that relationship because of what you found. Plot Twist… how many of you are not in that relationship because there was nothing there and he couldn’t trust you anymore… Was it worth it?
Now I am going to ask a question many women do not think about when it comes to going through your significant other’s phone… How many of you were forgiven by your man for going through his phone? Forgiven. Never brought it up to you, still loved on you, hugged you, served you, took care of you after you breached his trust and violated his personal space?
I know, I know I can hear most Ladies now saying “I had a feeling he was doing somthing.”, “I just had to see who he was talking to so much.” “I have trust issues.” “I wanted to make sure he was telling the truth.”
These all seem to be good reasons right? But as a woman who is aspiring to trust in God daily with everything, we should not leave out our man’s personal life in that agreement.
The Struggle Is Real
I have struggled with this Ladies. Hard. I have gone through my loved one’s phone more times than I would like to admit. Every time, he has forgiven me. He could have left me, gotten two phones, or just gone out and did what I thought he might be doing. But I am blessed to have a patient man. I realized that I was not trusting God to take care of me. I took my insecurities from past relationships with men that I should not have been in a relationship with and projected it on this new guy God brought into my life. I told my self I had a right to protect myself, I had a right to know. When in reality I was taking the foundation of any relationship (trust) and flushing it down the toilet.
Light at the end of the tunnel…
After much counseling and reading my Word I learned that if there is any temptation we are going through, He will give us a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). So when we have that burning addicting feeling to type that passcode in, go do somthing else, go talk to your mentor about it, work out, read. You see Ladies, in the end you are not catching him do anything, you are planting the seed of deception, untrustworthiness, and blocking your peace of mind.
Now I ask you again is it worth it?
Dont fall victim to the passcode, it’s just a passcode, not the key to all knowledge. For if your man has God as his head, he won’t lead you astray.
And this is why I change…
“Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”